I admit to struggling to what to say this year that wasn’t covered in Year 1 and Year 2. I have a hard time thinking about Mikey and me as a family. You see, I can still get caught up in the whole possessive pronoun thing: our pregnancy as opposed to my pregnancy, our infertility instead of my infertility. I had always imagined when I would say our family there would be three faces, three names, three human beings. But this year, again I type : Mikey and I are a family of two. And this year I am closer to saying that we will remain a family of two. 

So what can one of two offer to this year’s Blogging for LGBT Families? I look at the image and see the majority of the contrbutors are bigger than a family of two. The whole purpose of this blogging day is about highlighting the need to protect LGBT families and the families shown are more than a family of two. The bitter infertile part of me asks why should I even bother to add to their voices to advocate for their children. And then I give myself a smack on the head with my keyboard.

I have laughed and cried across long distances with many persons who gave me strength when the world seemed to be slipping from my grasp. I have watched online and in person the creation of new human beings from the first pictures of a positive pregnancy test to the ultrasounds, the birth and beyond. More than once, I held a hand to my screen in prayer over a painful or joyful post.

And today I realized. You are my family. The wonderful brave LGBT persons (and our like minded straight allies) choosing love over fear by opening your heart to children through birth, adoption or gestational carrier. You are my family, the men and women who choose love despite what our government says about the legitimacy of our realationships. I blog today because it is a proclamation of faith. Those who chose love over fear, choose love despite hate and ignorance will always win. We will prevail. It’s not about if, it’s about when.

Because no one messes with my family.