Comments on: Unsung Lullabies I http://nycphoenix.wordpress.com/2008/01/27/unsung-lullabies-i/ Rising with God's help and a lot of love from the ashes of infertility. Thu, 24 Dec 2009 21:26:44 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Chicory http://nycphoenix.wordpress.com/2008/01/27/unsung-lullabies-i/#comment-5867 Chicory Mon, 28 Jan 2008 15:51:17 +0000 http://nycphoenix.wordpress.com/?p=593#comment-5867 I really need to get this book, thank you for bringing it to my attention. I've been realizing that I'm infertile, and trying to talk about it with people, but it's hard to come to grips with. When you wrote about it being a trauma, that HIT me hard, so I can only imagine what reading about it first hand can be. I really need to get this book, thank you for bringing it to my attention. I’ve been realizing that I’m infertile, and trying to talk about it with people, but it’s hard to come to grips with. When you wrote about it being a trauma, that HIT me hard, so I can only imagine what reading about it first hand can be.

]]> By: Muriah http://nycphoenix.wordpress.com/2008/01/27/unsung-lullabies-i/#comment-5861 Muriah Sun, 27 Jan 2008 21:09:12 +0000 http://nycphoenix.wordpress.com/?p=593#comment-5861 I can't believe you read it on the subway! Holding back the tears is hard. The tears that come when you realize what the heck you are really going through, really truly feeling. It's nice to have another view of reading this book. I can’t believe you read it on the subway! Holding back the tears is hard. The tears that come when you realize what the heck you are really going through, really truly feeling. It’s nice to have another view of reading this book.

]]> By: peesticksandstones http://nycphoenix.wordpress.com/2008/01/27/unsung-lullabies-i/#comment-5860 peesticksandstones Sun, 27 Jan 2008 20:26:24 +0000 http://nycphoenix.wordpress.com/?p=593#comment-5860 I actually kinda wish I had the guts to read IF books on the subway -- but I always feel so embarrassed. Wish I could use it as an opportunity to show the world it's nothing to be ashamed of, but I'm not that strong yet. Your post also reminds me of how I sometimes, in a weird way, envy my best friend (who's about to start TTC with her female partner). I think "they have TWO wombs, TWO sets of ovaries," etc. As someone with female factor issues, the idea of having someone else carry that burden sounds so nice... I actually kinda wish I had the guts to read IF books on the subway — but I always feel so embarrassed. Wish I could use it as an opportunity to show the world it’s nothing to be ashamed of, but I’m not that strong yet.

Your post also reminds me of how I sometimes, in a weird way, envy my best friend (who’s about to start TTC with her female partner). I think “they have TWO wombs, TWO sets of ovaries,” etc. As someone with female factor issues, the idea of having someone else carry that burden sounds so nice…

]]> By: carrie-targetgirl http://nycphoenix.wordpress.com/2008/01/27/unsung-lullabies-i/#comment-5858 carrie-targetgirl Sun, 27 Jan 2008 18:13:37 +0000 http://nycphoenix.wordpress.com/?p=593#comment-5858 Janet Jaffe (one of the authors of this book) was my therapist while we were trying. She literally saved my sanity and I respect her so much. I got a copy of her book once it was published and really grew from reading it. For me it was not only having to go to the RE that pushed me over "the edge," but needing to have every part of the journey to parenthood altered. No sperm from my partner, no making babies at home, having to pay for what should be free services, and having the cycles so monitored and medicalized. The whole thing is a trauma. A deep one that gets reinforced every time we don't get pregnant. Anyway, I read your blog all the time, but I thought I would delurk to tell you about Janet. Carrie Janet Jaffe (one of the authors of this book) was my therapist while we were trying. She literally saved my sanity and I respect her so much. I got a copy of her book once it was published and really grew from reading it.

For me it was not only having to go to the RE that pushed me over “the edge,” but needing to have every part of the journey to parenthood altered. No sperm from my partner, no making babies at home, having to pay for what should be free services, and having the cycles so monitored and medicalized. The whole thing is a trauma. A deep one that gets reinforced every time we don’t get pregnant.

Anyway, I read your blog all the time, but I thought I would delurk to tell you about Janet.

Carrie

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