Sigh….
BabySis, Mami, and the Nephews visited for ten days so enough time has passed for me to let go and able to write things.
They are both very smart and I miss them already. Manly Nephew has a knack for music and art. Lil Kahuna is great at mimicry and solo play. The Nephews are cute and fun but troubled. Lil Kahuna is a biter and screamer, highly competitive with brother and lacks total cooperation with peers (which is normal for two but it felt a little extreme). Manly Nephew is tantrumming and an overeater and has a real whiny/victim streak in him.
BabySis is snarky and tired and basically another parent for the Nephews
Sis is in love with a 20 something guy who moved from Utah to Puerto Rico with his brother to look for work. They do not speak Spanish and are barely LDS. Who leaves a decent economy to move across the country to an island that is poorer than Mississippi without speaking Spanish? Anyways, she’s in love she went in summer to visit him in Utah. to give a clue about his background: His mom charged Sis a daily rate while she stayed there. She visited again this fall hence the NYC visit by the Nephews. And oh yeah she M0rmonized this past spring. Ugh
Dad was impossible during the visit for all sorts of reasons to long to get into detail there. Just a rehash of Dysfunctional marriage and controlling behavior that reminded me why my parents should not be in the same state together. He found apart time job and lives in a home with his wife, his daughter and her adult daughters. Still no relationship with them.
Mom is older and it shocked me. It took her about two hours upon landing to comment about my weight but overall it was a decent visit. It only took two years of partial estrangement. She gave me a family heirloom ring for my birthday which kinda brought the mortality thing in clear focus.
My birthday…37….I must be crazy to think about IVF the Third






